Masculinity
True Definition
“A day may come when the courage of men fails, when we forsake our friends and break all bonds of fellowship, but it is not this day.” — Aragorn
In this weeks newsletter I want to discuss the importance of masculinity and how true masculinity has mostly been forgotten. We can see examples of this everywhere:
Most young men grow up without friends/brothers that would die for them.
Most young men grow up either without a father figure or with a very weak, misguided father who never became a masculine man himself.
Most young men are taught in school not to stick up for themselves or what they believe in.
By growing up in environments such as the few I mentioned above, many young men, once they reach 18-20 years old, are completely lost and without purpose. They are then forced to look up true masculine guidance on platforms such as Youtube, films, social media, etc.
And what are they met with?
False Icons
Many of the “Red Pill” or “Self-Improvement” guys on YouTube are giving out terrible advice to you. They bundle up all this crappy information and say that they’re “Raising your testosterone” or “This is how you become masculine”.
And I am well aware that I use these same titles on my videos, but if you have watched some of my stuff you know that I am putting out much different, high quality content.
These so-called “influencers” tell you to be selfish, sleep with a bunch of women, be heartless, focus on making money, etc. without EVER mentioning morals and values that you should live by. They always jump right into topics that I just mentioned without giving their audience what really matters.
The Right Path
And that is, like I just stated, morals and values.
Morals and values are the outline of your life.
They are the reason behind why we do what we do.
And if you value sleeping with a bunch of women, making money, being heartless, etc. over becoming a good man, you are lost and without purpose.
This is because all of these things have you at the center. You are just looking out for yourself and your immature desires over all else. You don’t care about the side effects of your actions. All you care about is your own vanity.
Obviously we all want to make money. But I want you to ask yourself these questions:
Do I want to make money so that I can buy a nice car, big house, and appear successful to other people?
Or do I want to make enough money so that I can be financially free and support all my loved ones, so that they don’t ever have to worry about money?
Do I want to sleep with a bunch of women so that I’ll look like a “ladies man” to all the other guys?
Or have I never felt the love of a genuine woman so I constantly go out of my way to seek approval and validation from lower quality women?
Am I being heartless because I can’t believe they would treat me like that?
Or am I afraid of forgiving their wrongdoings and accepting the fact that I made a mistake in trusting them and loving them?
You see, all of this comes back around.
I call this the two-sided mirror. On one side you have the path of self-reflection, or the path of reality, the truth. On the other, you have the path of brushing things aside, ignoring the heart, the center, of all your problems because you are too weak to accept the fact that you lack purpose.
Purpose
“The mystery of human existence lies not in just staying alive, but in finding something to live for.” — Fyodor Dostoyevsky
I am well aware that I can’t tell you what your purpose is. Only you can figure that out. However, I can tell you my purpose so that you can get an idea of how it works.
When I first started making fitness content and motivational reels all I cared about was “blowing up” and becoming the next big fitness influencer. I watched guys like Chris Bumstead, David Laid, Greg Doucette, etc.
And I kept that belief, that desire, for quite some time. It wasn’t until a couple months ago when I truly realized my full potential and passion.
I was watching a David Laid video because I enjoy his cinematics. And I’m watching this video and I couldn’t help but think “This is all just spectacle”, “There is really no useful information being given”. It’s just a vlog. He doesn’t share his values or beliefs. He doesn’t share how to become a good man.
And I just couldn’t help but think that this is not who I want to become. I don’t want to blow up anymore. I don’t want to put out recyclable content that just motivates people for a short period of time.
I want to be different.
I want to share something more with my audience. And this is why my last couple of videos have been much more informative. I still have the “spectacle” aspect in there in the form of cinematics, but the meat of my videos now is information because that is the type of viewer, the type of audience I want to grow. I don’t care how long it takes because I’m not doing it for the fame. I’m doing it because I know I can help people by sharing my personal experiences and advices.
That’s my purpose.
Helping other men become more than they are.
Are you ready to become more?
The full Youtube video on this very topic will be released later this week. Stay Tuned!
Best,
Kenny